Are idols holding you back from your best life ?

Sadie Kolves

On July 11, 2024
Idols are defeated not by being removed but by being replaced - Kyle Idleman
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Have you ever been forced to confront the uncomfortable truth about the idols you’ve  created in your life? You see, idols aren’t just ancient statues or mythical figures; they can be anything we elevate to a position of supreme importance, often to the detriment of our well-being and relationships.
For me, the idols have taken many forms over the years. At one point, it was my career. I poured every ounce of energy into climbing the corporate ladder, sacrificing time with loved ones and my own physical and mental health in the process. I convinced myself that success was the ultimate goal, and that the ends justified the means. But as I looked around at the empty, hollow feeling that came with achieving my professional goals, I realized that I had made my job an idol.
Another idol that has been present before is social media. I’ve found myself mindlessly scrolling through feeds, comparing my life to the curated highlight reels of others, and feeling inadequate sometimes as a result. I’ve wasted hours trying to present a perfect online image, afraid of being judged or rejected if I didn’t conform to certain standards. It was as if I had made the approval of strangers an idol, sacrificing my self-worth and authenticity in the process.
I’ve also made idols out of relationships. I’ve put people on pedestals, expecting them to fulfill my every need and desire. When they inevitably failed to meet these lofty expectations, I was left feeling hurt, angry, and disappointed. I had forgotten that humans are fallible and that no one person can meet all of our needs. I had made them an idol, rather than recognizing them as imperfect individuals with their own strengths and weaknesses.
And then, of course, there’s the idol of material possessions. I’ve accumulated stuff, convinced that the next purchase or acquisition would bring me happiness and fulfillment. But the truth is, the fleeting high of buying something new wears off quickly, leaving me feeling empty and unfulfilled once again. I had made the pursuit of possessions an idol, rather than recognizing that true joy comes from relationships, experiences, and personal growth.
As I reflect on these idols, I’m struck by the common thread that runs through them all: the pursuit of control and security. I’ve tried to control the uncontrollable, seeking security in things that are ultimately fleeting and unreliable. I’ve forgotten that true security comes from within, from a sense of self-worth
 that isn’t tied to external validation or material possessions.
So, what’s the solution? How do we break free from these idols and find true fulfillment?
For me, it’s been a journey of self-reflection and intentional living. I’ve had to confront the underlying fears and insecurities that drove  my idol-making tendencies. I’ve had to learn to let go of control and trust that life will unfold as it should. I’ve had to focus on cultivating inner strength, rather than relying on external sources of validation.
One of the most powerful tools I’ve discovered is gratitude. When I focus on the things I’m thankful for, rather than the things I lack, I’m reminded of the abundance that already exists in my life. I’m reminded that true fulfillment comes from relationships, experiences, and personal growth, not from external sources.
 I’ve had to learn to practice self-compassion. I’ve had to recognize that I’m human, and that it’s okay to make mistakes. I’ve had to be kind to myself when I fall short, rather than beating myself up over my failures.
As I look back on my journey, I’m reminded that breaking free from idols is a lifelong process. It’s not something that happens overnight, but rather through a series of small, intentional choices. It’s a journey of self-discovery, of confronting our deepest fears and insecurities, and of learning to trust in something greater than ourselves.
So, I’ll keep working to dismantle the idols in my life, one by one. I’ll keep seeking to cultivate inner strength, gratitude, and self-compassion. And I’ll keep reminding myself that true fulfillment comes from within, not from external sources.
What about you? What idols have you created in your life? What steps are you taking to break free from their grip and find true fulfillment?

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